1) Keep a journal of gratitude
When you fear that you will not be able to support yourself or your family, it is easy to get caught up in what you do not have: you have no income, you do not have quality food you can not pay the bills and you drink lemonade instead of champagne.
It is perfectly understandable, but deadly, to focus on what you are missing. You will feel like a failure, which will prevent you from selling yourself on the application forms and in the interviews. You can turn this.
Many psychological research shows that gratitude and happiness go hand in hand. Billionaire Oprah Winfrey has held a recognition journal since her youth. It's a simple but transformational concept.
At the end of each day, you write what happened to make you grateful. Has anyone held you an open door? Was your bill a little cheaper than expected? Did your child do anything beautiful?
No matter how difficult your day, you can always find something to enjoy. In your darkest moments, you might find yourself just writing "I'm grateful to my sister for letting me take a shower" or even "I'm still alive" C & # 39; is in these moments that you will truly understand the value of gratitude.
2) Treat it as if it was your job
You are not unemployed. Your job is to get a job. It's probably the worst compensation you've ever had, but if you work hard, you'll be rewarded with patience, perseverance and, possibly, job skills.
Imagine your new boss in an elegant suit, shaking your hand firmly and looking at you. Would this boss agree with you, dressed in pajamas, entering the office at 11 am, putting himself at ease in front of the computer and opening YouTube?
Right now, you are your own boss. That means you have to go to the office every day at 9 o'clock. This means that you need to refine your resume, seek advice from recruitment agencies, apply for jobs, perhaps even practice your specific skills, or learn how to improve your application forms and interviewing techniques.
Take an hour for your lunch, if you did it at work. Finish at the same time as you would at work. Take weekends.
This not only helps you get started in a routine, but also prevents you from feeling lazy and lets you know how much effort you are investing in looking for a job.
3) Take breaks
I do not just mean taking fifteen minutes to have a cup of tea (although I do not know what a cup of tea can not cure). I mean to take a mental break. When you are faced with constant rejection and lack of feedback, your motivation may fall apart. You only have your own voice to listen to and, after a while, the message "You can not do it", "You keep failing", "You are not as good as the others candidates "or worse than anything" You will never find work. "
What would your best friend say if they heard you talking about you like this? If they say: "You are amazing because you keep trying" or "You get closer to the goal every day, every application form and every interview, then do not worry not ", you have chosen a good friend. Take time to fight yourself mentally. Take a break. Breathe. Tell you exactly what that good friend would tell you. Then say it out loud.
Personal motivation is extremely important for success. This is the spark that will start this application, this phone call or this resume.
4) Talk about that.
Keep in mind that "talking" does not mean "complaining". Smearing is acceptable in small doses, but it is also something you need to break through.
Share your experience with someone you trust. Have your friends or family members ever been unemployed? Ask them about it. How did they feel? What did they do to overcome it? Absorb all the tips you can and use them yourself. You may (or may not) be surprised by the number of people in a position similar to yours. It is not only the age of dismissal, but also the age of people who feel more free to change jobs regularly and pursue a dream career.
5) The rule of thumb: never give up
You will not remain unemployed for ten years. This will only happen if you work exceptionally hard on unemployment or if unresolved psychological or physical problems block you.
It may take months, more than a year, it may not be the job of your dreams, but you will inevitably have a job. During your unemployment, you will benefit from financial assistance, whether it is through savings, a parent, the government, a spouse or a friend. There is always a way for you to get help. This can be terribly difficult and you could learn from your pride, but it can be done.
I recently met a successful, vibrant and happy man, who has always been unemployed. When he was homeless, he was perfectly entitled to dwell on that pain and fear. Instead, he used the golden rule to deal with his storm. He had been employed before and knew that he could do it again. He had recovered from an addiction and, because of that, knew that he was strong enough to recover from the homelessness. He still had many years ahead of him to be able to try again. And even. And even.
You will only get there if you try. Be gentle with yourself and never give up.